How to Regulate Your Emotions with Mindfulness
Life has been beyond challenging for most of us the last couple of years. From inhabiting a Black body in America, to dealing with family, relationships, work, finances, and school. It can all feel very overwhelming.
We never want to fully deny our emotions. Feeling them is how we process the events of our lives. But there comes the point where we need to figure out a way to move through the emotions and get safely to the other side. One of the most effective ways to do this is through mindfulness.
What is Mindfulness & How Can It Help?
Mindfulness is a simple, non-judgmental awareness of the present moment. It is a powerful way to connect with our bodies and emotions, but in a higher state of awareness.
Mindfulness helps us regulate our emotions by putting us in a calm and relaxed state of presence. From here we can have a more mature and sensible point of view of the events in our lives.
Second, when practiced regularly, mindfulness can help us develop skills that promote emotional maturity and self-regulation. These skills include self-awareness and attentional control.
And finally, mindfulness can increase the time between trigger and response. In this way, mindfulness acts a bit like an advanced warning system, alerting us to a potential ugly scene, giving us time to engage in emotional self-monitoring. This gives us the opportunity to choose our emotional response very, very carefully.
Getting Started with Mindfulness
There are many online resources for getting started with a mindfulness meditation practice. Some of my favorite go to apps, websites, podcasts, and meditators include:
-The Calm app
-YouTube Channel: Freedom at the Map
-A Moment of ZENTOLA (podcast)
Of course you can always Google and/or YouTube: “mediation” and “mindfulness.” Maybe you also include specifiers like, “Black,” “African America,” or “BIPOC.”
If you are interested in working privately with someone on regulating your emotions, please reach out to me. I use mindfulness in my practice with clients and would be happy to answer any questions you may have.